What is 50 shades of grey about? And what's so bad about it?@Anonymous
50 Shades of Grey was originally fanfiction based on the Twilight series, which was then published as a novel (along with 2 subsequent books). It sold over 100 million copies around the world and topped best-seller lists everywhere. It’s about to be adapted into a film, set to come out early next year.
It follows a college student named Ana Steele, who enters a relationship with a man named Christian Grey and is then introduced to a bastardised and abusive parody of BDSM culture.
While the book is paraded as erotica, the relationship between Ana and Christian is far from healthy. The core mantra of the BDSM community is “safe, sane and consensual”, and 50 Shades is anything but. None of the rules of BDSM practices (which are put in place to protect those involved) are actually upheld. Christian is controlling, manipulative, abusive, takes complete advantage of Ana, ignores safe-words, ignores consent, keeps her uneducated about the sexual practices they’re taking part in, and a multitude of other terrible things. Their relationship is completely sickening and unhealthy.
Basically, “the book is a glaring glamorisation of violence against women,” as Amy Bonomi so perfectly put it.
It’s terrible enough that a book like this has been absorbed by people worldwide. Now, we have a film that is expected to be a huge box-office success, and will likely convince countless more young women that it’s okay not to have any autonomy in a relationship, that a man is allowed to control them entirely. It will also show many young men that women are theirs to play with and dominate, thus contributing to antiquated patriarchal values and rape culture.
Boycott this fucking movie, for the love of god. These kinds of ideas are dangerous and set us back as a society
yeah if i have shot glasses i definetly want them to be shaped like mason jars
How do you feel about trans women invading feminist spaces?@Anonymous
i don’t get how a woman can “invade” a space meant for women.
should I propose an open relationship?? I feel like I should.
cause while we’re not technically together (fyi if youre new here, we were together for 4 years and then off and on for 2 years) we still talk every day and say goodnight to each other and support each other emotionally.
its just a lot less anxiety for us (we both have crazy work lives and weird living situations) to be officially together and we’re both stumbling a bit with “what we want in a partner” and whatever.
but we’re basically together but we’re both still open to dating other people so that’s an open relationship. but does it even matter to make it official? like who even cares? idk.
what am I saying. I hate all this drama shit. fuck thisss.